These Promises are being fulfilled among us!

You will be amazed, if you are diligent and honest and willing.

These are not extreme promises, they are being fulfilled consistently by those who follow 12 Step programs. Sometimes quickly and sometimes slowly-but they do become a part of your life if you are willing to work for them.

The principles I have described are not meant for golf alone, they can be utilized in every area of anyone’s life. I have used golf as the vehicle to change the hearts and the minds and the souls of others.

This is a spiritual journey based on spiritual principles, I do hope I have ignited a flame in you to approach life from a different perspective. After all aren’t the Promises what we seek each and every moment, we are awake? However, if you don’t want what we have, please continue with what you are doing, and you will continually keep getting what you are getting.

  1. You will have a new freedom and a new happiness.
  2. You will stop regretting those missed shots or that bad round.
  3. You will understand the word serenity, and you will know peace and realize golf is a game.
  4. You will see how your experience will help others.
  5. Self pity and whining and that feeling of uselessness will slip away.
  6. Your whole attitude and outlook of yourself the world and golf will change.
  7. Fear of people and a 4’ putt will disappear.
  8. You will intuitively know how to handle situations that once confused you.

The Road to Happiness Movie

A few Tips and Techniques will help you gain confidence:


You are in the second day of a two day tournament. You and 4 others are tied for the third place, the prospects look pretty good. There are 2 tied for first being only 3 strokes better than you and the second place slot has 3 tied only one stroke away from you. The fourth and fifth place players are 4 and 6 away. Looking over the field it looks like only 9 competitors to play against. Only 3 strokes difference between you and first place, not such bad odds.

You par the first 4 holes. Bogey the fifth and sixth. Your confidence is slightly shaken. You are beginning to wonder what is next. You miss a 4 foot putt on the seventh whole for a birdie. What went wrong? You feel like the wheels are coming. How do we recover from a good round going bad, how do we stop the bleeding and right our game?

Some LPGA Tour pros can give us a hand:

Don’t get ahead of yourself. Just think about the shot in front of you, clam down. After I’ve done that, a lot of times I’ll be able to tell myself, “Look, you are capable reeling off five or six birdies in a row, so don’t let a few bad shots get to you.”.........Karrie Webb

You go back to what works for you. For me, it’s slowing down my golf swing, picking a spot on the ball and hitting to specific target. Try to hit the ball a little bit better shot after shot, and see if you can improve...........Rachel Teske

I pick a tighter target and may try to hole out a shot instead of just hitting the green. I am looking for a jump start...........Wendy Ward

When things are going bad, I take a lot of deep breaths and a lot of practice swings, trying to get back a good feel for my swing...........Julie Inkster

Learn from your mistakes, try not to make the same one twice............Meg Mallon

After you finish a bad hole, you need to follow up with a good solid tee shot...........Lorie Kane

Remember your past successes, the rounds where you’ve played very well at the end. It is amazing how a bad round can turn around. You have to believe it will happen...........Nancy Scranton

After I’ve had a couple of bogeys, I say to myself, “Okay, how about a birdie here?” Try to focus right from the get-go, right from the tee, and prepare to do well on that hole...........Patty Hurst

I say to myself, “Stop. Let’s play this one shot. Let’s hit this ball in the fairway not worry about anything else.” Once I get that ball in the fairway, I’ll say, “Let’s get this ball on the green.” I use an approach where I’m taking things step-by-step, instead of thinking of an entire round or even an entire hole...........Heather Daly-Donofrio

It used to take me two or three holes to recover. I’d play a bad shot or two, get mad and then keep making mistakes because my mind wasn’t on the shot I had control of-the one I was about to play-but on the ones in the past. Finally, I learned that it’s all about what mindset you choose to have. Now I handle it differently. When I’ve played a bad hole, I’m certainly not happy about it, and I let myself feel that anger for a brief moment. I recognize the poor shots and poor decisions for what they were. Then I immediately turn the anger into something positive. I step up to the next shot determined not to let the mistake destroy my round, focus on my new target and use the extra adrenaline to execute a great swing. If I don’t choose this positive mindset, one bad hole can quickly be compounded into a horrible round...........Kathy Whitworth

I must stay focused and get back to one shot at a time. I will get back to the basics of my swing. The simple lessons that were taught to me, when I first took up the game. Quiet my mind, keep breathing, look that ball directly in the eye, remember the tempo of my swing and verbalize the words “swing, set, through“, make sure my shoulder and chin meet on my back swing and watch the club head hit that ball. I incorporated “taking the pose” on my follow through. This gets me back to golfing, rather than letting the board meeting continue in my head, with all the negativity that brings...........Jo Anne N.(not an LPGA professional

How to eliminate those shanks, whiffs and pop-ups that get you down:

It is those humiliating blunder shots that can destroy our confidence along with our scores. We can hit a perfect drive and then muff it to the green. We can hit a drive that will be 300 yards (that is 100 yards straight up in the air only travel 100 yards out and 100 yards down to the ground). We dread the and fear the horrendous experience of a whiffed shot (I allow myself 2 a year).

Take heart my friends, for every bad shot, there is a cure. Sheri Keller, a teaching professional at Longshore Club Park in Westport, Connecticut, has laid out the solutions to these embarrassing moments.

  1. THE WHIFF: To eliminate any chance of a whiff, establish a smooth pace, taking your back swing on the count of one, and you forward swing on the count of two. A smooth, even, one-and-two count gives you a better chance of maintaining your balance and posture and making solid contact with the ball.
  2. THE TOPPED TEE SHOT: The first tee shot in an important match, or even in a friendly game, is never easy on the nerves. Add a short carry over a water hazard and pressure builds even more. The tension can make you squeeze the club too tightly, which inevitably causes you to pull away from the ball and top it into the hazard. To prevent this, hold the club as if you were trying to keep a butterfly between your fingers without harming it. The light hands will allow you to swing much more smoothly and create extension through the ball. Take a couple of deep breaths to alleviate any tension before moving the club back.
  3. THE POP-UP DRIVE: You may think that you may have teed it up to high, but teeing it lower only leads to more of the same. The problem isn’t how far you push the tee into the ground, but where in the stance you place it. If the ball is too centered, the club will strike it in the downswing and pop it straight up. When using a driver, you should position the ball in line with inside of your left heel. This way, you’ll sweep it off the tee in the upswing, catapulting it forward as well as up.
  4. THE CHUNK: If your swing gets off plane when you take the club back, you might end up shopping down on the ball, creating a big divot that flies farther than the ball. This is a classic blunder and is caused by swinging the club at too steep an angle. As you start your takeaway, try to maintain the triangle created by your shoulders and arms at address. Once the club is about waist high, it should be parallel to the ground and to your target line. At this point, allow your hands to hinge naturally-not straight up, but in the same direction your upper body is turning. At the top, your arms should be on the same plane as your shoulders. Your club head will clip the grass under the ball instead of digging into the ground.
  5. THE CHILI-DIP: A chili-dip is the pesky little two-foot flub you end up with around the green when your are really going for a 20-foot chip. Typically it’s the result of too long a backswing and too short a follow-through, which slows down the swing as you approach the ball. Acceleration through the ball is important in any golf shot, but especially when chipping and pitching. To combat the chili-dip, practicea follow-through that is the same length as the backswing in your chipping stroke. You can even let the follow-through be a bit longer.
  6. THE SHANK: The most common reason for a shank (when the ball is hit by the hosel, or neck, of the club head instead of the face, sending it scurrying sideways along the ground) is standing too close to the ball. Make a habit of checking your setup before swinging. Start by getting into a good athletic posture-remember to tilt from your hips first, then flex your knees. When you feel you’re set up correctly to the ball, let go of the club with your lower hand and just allow your arm to hang freely. If you’re standing too close to the ball, your hand will hang in front of the club. At the correct distance from the ball, your loose hand should be able to grab the club in the correct spot on the grip by just swinging over sideways. (see below)

Photograph by Chris Rogers @ Great River Golf Club, Milford, CT, GFW, Feb '02

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