Fearless Golfing to Gain Success
“It is a simple formula; do your best and somebody might like it”—–Dorothy Parker
Confidence is generally described as a state of being certain either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective.
Self-confidence is having confidence in oneself. Arrogance or hubris in this comparison, is having unmerited confidence--believing something or someone is capable or correct when they are not.
Overconfidence or presumptuousness is excessive belief, in someone or something, succeeding, without any regard for failure. Scientifically, a situation can only be judged after the aim has been achieved or not. Confidence can be a self-fulfilling prophecy as those without it may fail or not try because they lack it and those with it may succeed because they have it rather than because of an innate ability.
An attitude is a hypothetical construct that represents an individual's degree of like or dislike for an item. Attitudes are generally positive or negative views of a person, place, thing, or event-- this is often referred to as the attitude object. People can also be conflicted or ambivalent toward an object, meaning that they simultaneously possess both positive and negative attitudes toward the item in question.
Conflict results in FEAR=False Evidence Appearing Real.
Fearless golfing is a game of confidence and provides endless enjoyment in good shot and in bad. Our fear of mistakes can keep us from doing the recovery from a bad shot we need to keep the pace of play.
Fear-”the basic emotional sensation and response initiated by an aversion to some self perceived risk or threat”, and yet we love this game. How can a game which has really nothing riding on it illicit this emotion?
It is about eliminating the fear of the outcome of our golf swing and what priority we place on our game. We want to rid ourselves of the free-floating sensation of impending doom. Fear is death by a thousand lashes.
The biggest problem golfers have is the constant worry over how others will perceive their golfing abilities. Thinking about someone else’s thoughts distract a golfer from their job, concentrating on the ball and their swing. Worry about what others think only creates that fear and anxiety we experience when we are addressing the ball.
It is all about that nasty condition perfectionism. I have tried to address this during our 12 step walk, but it doesn’t hurt to show how it interferes with our game again.
It is the ego and it will tell you things you do not need to hear during a round of golf.
These include fear of failure, such as doubts about your own worthiness for success, and if you're like most people, it also involves the fear of achieving the very things you want.
"Problems have only the size and the power that you give them"——–S. H.
The fear of success is a unique issue that arises when you are genuinely creating change and moving forward in your game, fear of success is very real, we want to golf fearlessly but wonder if we can maintain it and then find failure after all.
To create and sustain success it is essential to find and release your fears of success. The more you leave the task undone, the more your fears will control you, it is those demons that keep us from accomplishing what we really want.
All fears of success would go away if you totally took your power back, in fact, our very deepest fear is that when we really reclaim our power and succeed, we have to face the knowledge that we have always been powerful to change all along, and that we could have changed at anytime we really wanted to. Change comes from choice and we have always had that power.
The golfer who is relaxed and confident plays a much better game of golf. Fear is the one thing a golfer never needs to take with them to the course.
Jack Nicklaus observed that fear is a golfer’s number one enemy. It is developing the courage to golf fearlessly. Fear plays games with the physical motion and a golfer must break free from the grasp of fear.
We of course are our own worst enemies. So many times after a bad shot many rush to the ball and just want it all to be over, hence many bad decisions are made of embarrassment.
Remember to breath, get the mind and body re-focused, and concentrate on the stroke needed to get out of the trouble the bad shot created.
Being afraid adds nothing positive to anyone’s game.
Get yourself together, get a grip it is only a golf shot, and it can be corrected. Take a deep breath. Forget that last shot, yes forget it, no regrets, what is over is over. Our minds must redirect our focus away from that initial stroke.
Take time to digest what is needed for the shot at hand. Check the yardage and find a target. Loosen the body and “de-tensify”, drop those shoulders and slow down. Take the time to de-tense and pay attention to what is really needed on the next shot, this will eliminate slowing down play from the rushing and hitting and whacking at the ball and hitting another bad shot then another bad shot. Taking the time now will actually keep the rhythm and tempo of the game.
Fear and frustration are twins in the game of golf. Between fear and frustration is that all time favorite “anger” which is the breeding ground of mistakes.
The player who holds on to these non productive emotions will not improve and will continue to fall into the same dissatisfaction of being an unhappy golfer.
There is no rational reason behind our anger and frustration and fear. Golf is one of the most difficult games anyone could have chosen to find recreation in. The odds of being in the zone with peak performance are about 25% of the time, that is the average.
It is rather funny when one thinks about it. Here we are playing the most difficult of games in the most difficult positions and thinking we should never make a mistake.
I have to just laugh sometimes with some of the shots I pull off (I should say don't pull off), it sure is better than getting mad at myself.
Think about the odds:
Do you force yourself to try to make a shot that even the best of golfers would avoid?
(in a pot bunker why go out on the high side-find a better angle and you may save a few strokes)
Fear is the creator of faulty decision making.
Accept the bad shot, look out over your options and “think” about how best you can minimize the number of strokes to get the ball in the hole. No matter what happens with a shot accept it.
Acceptance is the last step in becoming a better player.
Remember, please remember, we are talking about a game and games should be fun.
"Golf is not a Game of Perfect". Truer words have never been spoken. The popular book by Sports Psychologist Bob Rotella is a must read for every would be golfer that wants to improve his/her game.
Fearless Golf DVD Training Aid: Mastering the Mental Game, By Dr. Gio Valiante