Determination to “Turn our wills and our lives and our game over to the care of God as we understand Him“.

“Until one is committed there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation) there is one elemental truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues forth from the decision, rising in one‘s favor in all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamt would come his way.”


We need a strong foundation. We cannot find it in mere positive thinking or visualization.

The “secret” doesn’t live in the “SECRET”. If you are trying all those mental high jinks you will find that they won’t work alone without a spiritual core.

We may believe in a God, but may have not let Him into our lives. If we are determined to find God's will for us, we will be rewarded. We must become determined to live on purpose.

The success of any 12 step program rests on how determined we are to follow this step.

Even the most modest attempts of letting go and letting God will bear fruit. The door of faith will open wider as we become more willing to trust God. Self will always closes it.

The more determined we become to turn things over to our Higher Power, the more we become more independent. People, places and things which held us captive are no longer our masters. We gain true spiritual freedom.

To become somebody we must become nothing

We have in the past determined our intellect and self will would find us inner peace and grant us the success we sought.

Everywhere we look, we see people filled with anger and fear and despair. We have looked to celebrity as the benchmark of our own self worth and self image.

We see the fragmentation of our countries, our communities and our families. We have become anarchists living for the self. We seek to have the thirst of the moment quenched.

The effect of our living outside consciousness is to live in the dark. We are sleep walkers. We have become automatons chasing the “flavor of the month”, we have no foundation.

We were given the gift of free will, and we believe we exercise that will freely. To execute our free will, we have to become awake. Become determined to achieve awareness.

Hedonism seems too strong a word for the way we function, but is it? Hedonism is the belief which holds that the good is whatever gives you pleasure and, ergo pleasure is the standard of morality. So as our pleasures change so does our basis for morality, guided by our feelings, emotions and whims and not by our minds.

One can achieve happiness only by a basic and rational set of values. These values are based on Universal Truths:

A. for every action there is a reaction.

B. if an action is right (or wrong) for others, it is right (or wrong) for me

C. what goes around comes around

D. the truth will set you free

Just to mention a few.

The Oxford Group, the society that was instrumental in the formulation of the 12 Steps, believed that there were Four Absolutes:

  1. Absolute Honesty (is it true or is it false?)
  2. Absolute Unselfishness (is it right or is it wrong?)
  3. Absolute Purity (how will it affect others?)
  4. Absolute Love (is it ugly or is it beautiful?)

We are determined to lay down our desires to play God. We have admitted defeat, have begun to believe in a Higher Power, and now we make a decision to turn our will and our lives over to His care.

Far from being a weakness, this dependence becomes our strength. When we begin to align our will with that of God’s, we begin to use our will freely.

“Our whole trouble has been the misuse of will power. We have tried to bombard our problems with it instead of attempting to bring it into agreement with God’s intention for us”. Bill W.

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference, Thy will not mine be done”

"Spiritual Power can be seen in a person‘s reverence for life……theirs and all others, including animals and nature, with a recognition of a universal life force referred to many as God.”

Virginia Satir

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