Confession Cleanses the Soul
Through Admittance and Confession we Gain Strength
“It’s ironic, but until you can free those final monsters within the jungle of yourself, your life, your soul is up for grabs.”
We admitted and confessed to God and ourselves and another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. It was one thing to write things down and have them staring us in the face, they are still our little secrets. It seemed hard enough to break down the walls of denial with ourselves, but now we have to tell someone else? Remember we are only as sick as the secrets we keep.
The deflation of our egos is not easy, and they do not go gently into the night.
Shrug this step off because of fear and reluctance and you risk a step needed for peace of mind.
“Oh, please! Give me a break, we are talking about a game here”, you say. Yes, it is true this is a game. I did say golf was a metaphor for life. We see who we really are on the golf course. Golf can bring out the best or the worst in us.
We confess our shortcomings, our defects of character. Our behavior on the golf course has been the symptom of our dis-ease.
If our attitude is to hold back on this step we risk carrying around more distress with our guilt and shame. We cannot shoulder the burden alone.
This concept of admitting our shortcomings is not new. Today in our modernity, we have used the psychologists “couch” for the ancient practice of confession. We have substituted the therapist for the “priest”.
There are times the psychologist helps us justify our irrationality. We confess our feelings and maybe expose our souls looking for a way to get out from under our discomfort. We can admit irritability, anxiety, remorse, and sadness. We can then accuse our best friends of the very shortcomings we are so desperately trying to cover-up.
In our inventory, we have listed maybe our sandbagging, our trying to shave a stroke or two, our having two balls in our pocket to avoid a penalty or perhaps using the old foot wedge. We are wondering who or how to confess this. your surprise, we will find that we haven’t been able to hide these defects, everyone already knows about “US”.
When the student is ready the teacher will appear
This old Buddhist proverb should be our guide when choosing the person we pick to share our inventory. We use care and want someone who understands, someone in whom we have confidence.
When you explain that we are trying to change our life, we will be pleasantly surprised. There are many helpful people willing to become our confidant and will be glad for us.
All the pent up guilt and shame of living for years in denial will be released. Humility and peace and healing begin. There will not be that feeling of isolation from our fellow golfers. Others will begin to see the transformation in us, and they will not shun us.
As we have looked at these steps, we may have begun to feel uncomfortable about ourselves concerning other areas of your life, places where we have discovered our behavior had been less than stellar. We may see how we have allowed people, places and things to affect your relationships.
These steps are the catalyst to freedom and peace of mind. Golf is just the beginning of our transformation. We started with golf and it has revealed to us our nature.
“Courage is the price life extracts for granting peace“
Ready to Remove Defects